Abstinence…..It’s Worth the Wait!!

17 Aug

Today my husband and I celebrate our first wedding anniversary; and let me say that the year has flown by! πŸ™‚ I reminisce to when we were dating. Being a single christian is a challenge for so many. It was a challenge for me. I remember when the conviction became strong because I was singing on the Praise team and sleeping with my husband (then boyfriend). The decision to become abstinent was not an easy one. It was not the popular decision and at that time marriage was no where in the future. I had to stand on what the word of God said regardless of what my flesh said.

I remember to this day when I told him that God was convicting me andΒ we should stop having sex. I really didn’t know what his reaction would be. He was raised the same way but he said he wasn’t as convicted as I was. After thinking it over for three days (three of the longest days of my life), he said “I am not as convicted as you are but what we have is valuable and for me to ask you to change your mind is to ask you to choose me over God and I can’t ask you to do that”…..God had already said he was a keeper πŸ™‚

The first year was challenging, we had one slip up. I realized that I had to surrender fully to this decision and focus. So I buckled down…the flesh is a beast if you don’t put some boundaries and parameters in place. That meant no kissing, no romance novels, no sleeping over, staying away from certain movies etc.

For two years before we got married, we remained abstinent. Our love and friendship deepened and I realize that this is what God intended the single/marriage process to be about. If your relationship is built on God, love, trust, respect and friendship,…then sex is just the icing on the cake.Jackie and Scott 15

Within those two years I taught the youth at my church. This held me even more accountable. I didn’t want to taint my testimony of the change God was working in me, neither did I want to be a hypocrite before them. We even started purity sessions with them; ‘true love waits’.

Jackie and Scott 1Well my husband surprised me with a beautiful diamond ringΒ on Christmas eve of 2011 πŸ™‚ It was worth the wait.I am typically laid back and didn’t want to make a big deal. But then I realized that so many of my brothers and sisters struggle in this area and it’s worth celebrating when we take a stand for God and God comes through (so many times the negative things get highlighted). It is worth the wait…and when we take a stand for God, He will always take a stand for us.

Christmas Eve engagement surprise :)

Christmas Eve engagement surprise πŸ™‚

This post is littered with photos taken through out my wedding process. I love photos!! My husband is not a big photo guy, so I used our free engagement shoot and the girls and I did a 70’s themed shoot. We had a blast πŸ™‚

70's photo shoot

70’s photo shoot

Photo shoot 1Photo shoot 4WeddingGod is awesome, my marriage is a blessing, God didn’t just give me the person that I needed, He gave me the person that I wanted as well. It’s truly a blessing. And I realize that the more I surrender to God the better my marriage is. I pray that God will enable me to continue to be his ‘good’ thing.

When we take a stand for God, He will take a stand for us πŸ™‚

Happy Anniversary to my forever guy, I love you. β™₯


Posted by on August 17, 2013 in Love


Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , ,

55 responses to “Abstinence…..It’s Worth the Wait!!

  1. Heather Marsten

    August 18, 2013 at 10:43 am

    I pray abundant blessings on your marriage – and I’m proud you chose abstinence. What an example and what a wonderful foundation for your marriage. I know God honors that.

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:12 am

      Thank you Heather πŸ™‚
      Blessings to you and yours too..

  2. Mel

    August 18, 2013 at 10:47 am

    Tearjerker !!!! Congrats Jackie.

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:13 am

      Thank you Mel πŸ™‚

  3. aviesplace2012

    August 18, 2013 at 11:42 am

    Happy Anniversary, JC! What a beautiful testimony! Thank you for sharing it! May God touch hearts through it!

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:14 am

      Avie, that’s my prayer as well! Thanks for the well wishes πŸ™‚

  4. Moshi

    August 18, 2013 at 1:30 pm

    This was a very nice read! I’m so excited for what the future holds for you guys!!

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:16 am

      My sister!…Thank you πŸ™‚

  5. Hollice Cumberbatch (@hollcumberbatch)

    August 18, 2013 at 2:18 pm

    It is indeed a beautiful testimony Jackie. Thank you for sharing. Congratulations on you and your husband on your first wedding anniversary!

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:17 am

      Thanks Hollice πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping through!

  6. naficia

    August 18, 2013 at 3:48 pm

    I read this with tears. I am convicted of the same and I will follow.. great wee always strong person..

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:19 am

      Amen!! That is truly a blessing πŸ™‚
      Thank you πŸ™‚

  7. Yolande Oliver

    August 18, 2013 at 4:11 pm

    I enjoyed reading this Jackie! What an inspiring love story with you, God and your husband. All the best and Happy Anniversary!

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 1:20 am

      Hi Yolande…thank you πŸ™‚
      Blessings to you and your family too πŸ™‚

  8. Robin Claire

    August 19, 2013 at 1:51 am

    Soooo Cute!!! You are an adorable bride!

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 7:20 pm

      Thanks Robin πŸ™‚

  9. worshipandswag

    August 19, 2013 at 2:03 am

    This is what we need…inspiring and encouraging messages that being exclusive for Christ ain’t dull! Thank you…and oh, your afro was banging, lol! πŸ˜€

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 7:25 pm

      Ha, you’re funny πŸ™‚
      Serving Christ isn’t dull at all… sure is an adventure though πŸ˜‰

  10. Mary C Wilson Andrews

    August 19, 2013 at 2:46 am

    Thank you so much for your courage and transparency. What a testimony to show how marriage reflects the picture of us as the Bride of Christ and we are all worth waiting for!

    • JC

      August 19, 2013 at 7:32 pm

      Thanks Mary πŸ™‚

      • Mary C Wilson Andrews

        August 19, 2013 at 7:54 pm


  11. Seyi sandra

    August 19, 2013 at 4:04 pm

    Oh my God! This is awesome!! I love your stand for God, your openness and I agreed with Mary, your transparency! Sister, you rock!! I love all your pictures… You and your husband look gorgeous! God bless and keep you and your family! May you be on fire for Christ always!
    Much love from your friend! πŸ™‚
    Seyi Sandra.

    • JC

      August 20, 2013 at 2:34 am

      Thanks Seyi!! And yes he is gorgeous πŸ˜‰ I do pray that I’ll be on fire for God always…He is so good πŸ™‚

      Blessings to you and your family too πŸ™‚


  12. Brittany

    August 20, 2013 at 4:05 am

    This is so wonderful, JC. I appreciate hearing your testimony of how God worked in you & your husband’s lives! Happy Anniversary and thank you for sharing this. Your pictures are beautiful as well! πŸ™‚

    • JC

      August 20, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      Thanks Brittany πŸ˜‰

  13. greenlightlady

    August 20, 2013 at 4:36 pm

    Congratulations on your anniversary! Yo two make a beautiful couple. God is so good!

    Blessings ~ Wendy

    • JC

      August 20, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      Thanks Wendy……and yes He is!! πŸ™‚

  14. PhotoMom | Bella

    August 20, 2013 at 11:44 pm

    Beautiful photos & inspiring story. Congratulations & wishing you many more happy years of marriage!

    • JC

      August 21, 2013 at 11:48 am

      Thank you my dear πŸ™‚
      Blessings to you and yours too..

  15. thecoolchristiansclub

    August 21, 2013 at 3:33 am

    You get three snaps in a “J” formation! LOL

  16. JC

    August 21, 2013 at 11:49 am

    Too funny….I had to google what that meant LOL…

    Thank you πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰


  17. joecruzmn

    August 22, 2013 at 5:26 am

    Great example. Awesome awesome pics

    • JC

      August 23, 2013 at 11:33 am

      Thank you so very much πŸ™‚

  18. God is Good

    August 22, 2013 at 11:59 am

    Fantastic testimony … My husband and I became Christians when we were living together … We were convicted to stop the lifestyle … 9 months of abstinence while living together (our families thought we were mad) we got married … and that was nearly 20 years ago πŸ™‚
    The photos are delightful, gorgeous and full of joy … thank you for posting this post!
    God is Good!

    • JC

      August 24, 2013 at 7:26 am

      Thank you πŸ™‚ …and congratulations on 20 years! God is indeed good!!

  19. journeyofjoy

    August 22, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    JC…… can’t believe I’m just now reading this! This is SO beautfiul. The story, the pictures, the transparency, the decision — I LOVE that I read this! thank you so much for sharing it and Happy Anniversary to the 2 of you!! May the LORD grant you many, many, many more happy years together. You look absolutely amazing in all your pictures, as does your husband! Glory to God in the highest~!

    • JC

      August 24, 2013 at 7:31 am

      Thanks Marlene πŸ™‚ I appreciate the comment πŸ™‚

  20. Christina ~

    August 23, 2013 at 12:52 am

    Gorgeous photos….and even more gorgeous couple!! I pray that God showers you both with many blessings for a long abundant life of love and health!!

    This post has brought me so much joy! Thank you for sharing this with us…for just being real and sharing how awesome God is. I am so very happy to have “met” you!! Hugs & Blessings! ~

    • JC

      August 24, 2013 at 7:32 am

      He is truly Awesome! Thank you Christina πŸ™‚

  21. Unshakable Hope

    August 23, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    Great post, JC! Thank you for your honesty and transparency. You prove that, even in our sex-obsessed culture, abstinence is still possible. When my daughters were in high school, they read a book titled “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.” They thought it was funny that the author said you shouldn’t even kiss before you’re married. Fast forward about 7 years, our oldest daughter gets married at the age of 23 – the first time her and her husband kissed was when the Pastor said “You can kiss your bride.”

  22. JC

    August 24, 2013 at 7:36 am

    Bill, that’s so cool about your daughter. I love it when young people take a stand! Thank you for your comment πŸ™‚

  23. altarofheaven

    August 24, 2013 at 7:48 pm

    Jackie this is just beautiful…beautiful! I’m so thankful you shared so much–God will use this for His glory…He has been glorified in this post. Congratulations!

    • JC

      August 27, 2013 at 6:26 pm

      Thank you πŸ˜‰

  24. inthepottershands988

    August 27, 2013 at 5:50 pm

    What a wonderful testimony of God’s amazing grace!! Thank you for sharing it! I love the photos, especially the 70’s photos shoot! All you needed was some disco balls! haha!

    • JC

      August 27, 2013 at 6:25 pm

      Lol, thank you πŸ˜‰

  25. Yevette

    August 28, 2013 at 12:59 am

    As a single Christian I find this very encouraging. I’ve walked with God for quite a while & never married or had children. Your being blessed for your obedience is powerful. BTW – your anniversary is my birthday!

    • JC

      August 28, 2013 at 1:39 am

      It’s a challenge, but God is a keeper πŸ™‚
      Thank you and Happy belated Birthday….I’ll remember that next year πŸ˜‰

  26. lessonsbyheart

    August 30, 2013 at 5:53 am

    Beautiful photos! Great exhortation. Congrats on your anniversary. πŸ™‚


    • JC

      August 30, 2013 at 12:52 pm

      Thank you and thank you my friend πŸ™‚

  27. Prodigal Daughter

    September 17, 2013 at 10:59 pm

    Lovely couple, lovely guy, lovely friends, awesome pictures and most of all lovely bride. God bless this marriage. You are so loved, my sister. Hugs!!

    • JC

      September 18, 2013 at 1:46 am

      Thanks PD πŸ˜‰
      Hugs received πŸ™‚

  28. aheartofadventure

    October 4, 2013 at 7:06 pm

    Wonderful testimony! Congratulations and thank you for being bold enough to share with the world what God has done in you and your life!

  29. daniellajoe

    September 24, 2014 at 2:56 am

    Happiness lots of it show through these photos πŸ™‚

  30. mwitasblog

    October 27, 2014 at 6:24 am

    Belated, but I rejoice with you, JC. I am saving that last photo; it’s unique.


Your feedback is greatly appreciated :)

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

LΓ­onel Lived.

πŸ™πŸΎ LΓ­onel was Strong, He Prospered and He is now in Perfect Health πŸ™πŸΎ


Just an introvert surviving in a world of extroverts.

Beautiful Words

Beautiful words stir my heart. I will recite a lovely poem about the king, for my tongue is like the pen of a skillful poet.

Untold Stories

A Skewed Glimpse of the World

Making memories


BD Photography

Nature and Landscape Photography

Sheri Lawrence de Grom

From the literary and legislative trenches.

Mihran Kalaydjian's Official Blog

β€œYou only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”

Darla McDavid

Writer | Stories about family, friends, goodness, and God

Uplifting Christ

Safe with Jesus

In Flow with Otto

Creativity is within us all


Poetry, Christian Devotionals, Recipes, Articles, Bible Studies, Thoughts and Prayers

Heather C. King - Room to Breathe

"He's solid rock under my feet, breathing room for my soul" Psalm 62:1-2 (MSG).

Kitties + Couture

A San Francisco Fashion Blog

Climbing Out Of The Well

Life of a Recovering Alcoholic, Food Addict, Schizoaffective, Child Abuse Survivor, Christian

Uprooted Magnolia

I'm Leah, a freelance Photographer born and raised in Macon, GA, USA. I spent 8 years in the wild west and this is my photo journal on life, love, and the spirit of Wyoming. Welcome to Uprooted Magnolia.

Faith Love n Desire

Only Jesus is your best friend....

Proverbs Way

Spreading faith, hope, and love, one word at a time


Just another site

Life In My Tin Can red rug

Places in the heart

Living Life Loud

Living life boldly with purpose!

66 Assurance Way

Spiritual Encouragement & Empowerment

Christian Grandfather Magazine

Encouraging Grandfathers & Future Grandfathers

%d bloggers like this: