“This is no time to lose your Head”
Have you ever found yourself offended, irritated, hurt and aggravated by what someone said to you or about you? Or perhaps, not just what they said, but, how they said it? How about when someone criticizes or corrects your work, and you feel as if the person criticized and corrected you? Most often, we then struggle to see the merit in the correction.
It is hard to receive it humbly when one is corrected or when someone confronts us with a flaw, dropping the ball in an area, a weakness or just any area of vulnerability. It is not to say that these feeling are not legit, but when we get stuck here, it is a clear sign that our emotions are governing our head.
I grappled with some of this a few days ago and I listened to a message that so blessed me (and my perspective) that I had to share: ‘This is no time to lose your head’.
Most of us live our lives from a ‘heart‘ place and not a ‘head‘ place. Many times we are so governed by our emotions that even when there is truth in whatever was said, we cannot receive it. We are unable to own up to the truth, do better the next time, apologize, or just simply decide to work on the area. Sometimes we don’t even think it through, we immediately become offended and don’t even care to process through, or consider the fact that, what the person said may be true.
We are unable to grow and mature because we keep trying to win a battle by having a ‘heart’ experience in a ‘head’ fight. Real decisions that move us along don’t come out of our emotions, they come out of our head. It is with our mind/head that we serve God and many times we miss seizing opportunities that He opens for us because we don’t ‘feel‘ like doing this or that, we don’t ‘feel‘ like going to this, we don’t ‘feel‘ it today, we don’t ‘feel‘ like dealing with this etc. We can easily forfeit what God wants to give us because of how we feel.
In this place we tend to lose perspective, in turn, lose our balance, and start tripping through life instead of focusing, flowing and flourishing…
The more I thought about this it just made sense. Our feelings will never cooperate with our dreams because success in any area of life takes discipline. And discipline is beating our feelings into captivity. So….is it true?
-did you drop the ball?
-did you miss the deadline?
-can you be a little bit more consistent?
-can you be more tactful?
-are you too busy?
-could you have gotten there a little earlier/on time?
-can you be more disciplined?
-could you have prepared better?
-could you have said it a different way?
Is it TRUE?
It is comforting to do the things we want to do and hear the things we want to hear…..but we don’t grow in times and situations of comfort. However, we have to develop the ability to be effective in discomfort; this is the true mark of growth 🙂
There is a shift going on in each of our lives, but it starts with and in our heads, not our feelings.
~~May 2015 be a year of enlightenment~~
Tags: correction, discipline, feel, feelings, God, grow, growth, head, heart, love, new year, next level, truth
January 9, 2015 at 6:39 pm
Very wise. We can’t always stop our uninformed reaction, but (as you point out) we don’t need to get stuck there. So excuse me, I think I will go see if I need a tow truck to get unstuck, and with any luck I’ll get out of the muck.
January 14, 2015 at 7:42 pm
You and me both……I am learning to appreciate another perspective even when I don’t like it!
Blessings my brother 🙂
January 16, 2015 at 3:41 am
Very insightful… Discipline is beating our feelings into captivity: I never saw it that way. But I always knew that to get anything done, I’ll have to act against my feelings most of the time.
Blessings to you JC..
January 16, 2015 at 9:01 pm
Hi Grace!!! How have you been?? For me, not responding from my feelings is the challenge. It just ‘feels’ so much better to do that 😉 But grow we must…
Thanks for stopping by…
January 23, 2015 at 1:59 pm
I simply cannot explain how much I liked this one JC………
Very very sobering! Must print and put it on my wall @ work as a reminder. Such a great way to sustain our spiritual maturity. And very well written.
Thank you so much!
Otto von Münchow
March 16, 2015 at 10:31 pm
You are so very right, it’s so easy to lose perspective and our balance. And we do too often get stuck without needing to. A very thoughtful post.