The conversation went something like this:
JC: Babe, for your birthday, I’m taking you away for the weekend.
JC: I’ve booked a beautiful cabin off of Lake Lure.
SC: What’s to do there?
JC: Well, we are going to climb Chimney Rock and tour Lake Lure.
SC: I don’t want to go.
JC: Huh, what you mean you don’t want to go??
SC: That’s not something I want to do for MY birthday.
JC: This would be great for us to do.
SC: Yes, for US, but not for ME. I would love to do that for a getaway for US, maybe to try it or for our anniversary, but not for MY birthday.
JC: (annoyance meter quivering between 4 and 5).
SC: Babe, okay, which one of us loves to climb mountains etc?
SC: Which one of us would go do this by ourselves?
SC: Exactly! This is not a gift just for ME. On your birthday I always make it ALL about you. And I shouldn’t feel bad for not wanting to do that on MY birthday.
Well, it made sense, but I go downstairs quite annoyed. We were having this conversation as we were getting ready to go to dinner for Valentine’s day and I am stewing inside. Why couldn’t he just go along with it? I would. Then I thought about it and realized that for the seven birthdays I’ve celebrated with him, I’ve never had to ‘go along’ with anything.
As I am having my pouting session, God said “he’s right”.
That was the quickest way to dismiss a case I never really had. (annoyance meter back to zero)
I finished getting ready for dinner and we had a wonderful time. The next day I called the resort, and of course, because the cancellation was within 14 days, I couldn’t get my money back; only a gift certificate. Whoosa…..so needless to say the trip for our anniversary is already booked for US. Lesson learned.
On a work assignment in Arizona two days ago and as we were driving from the airport in Tucson, God said one of the reasons SC is so firm about his birthday is because he is half of a boy/girl twin. And that made even more sense: all the birthdays he had to share along the way.
‘reading’ to his sister 🙂
Anywho, two days of pampering for him and I can’t wait for him to unwrap his ‘new’ gift a little later 🙂 Happy birthday love 🙂
Have you ‘went along’ with the gift even when you didn’t like it?