The conversation went something like this:
JC: Babe, for your birthday, I’m taking you away for the weekend.
SC: Where?
JC: I’ve booked a beautiful cabin off of Lake Lure.
SC: What’s to do there?
JC: Well, we are going to climb Chimney Rock and tour Lake Lure.
SC: I don’t want to go.
JC: Huh, what you mean you don’t want to go??
SC: That’s not something I want to do for MY birthday.
JC: This would be great for us to do.
SC: Yes, for US, but not for ME. I would love to do that for a getaway for US, maybe to try it or for our anniversary, but not for MY birthday.
JC: (annoyance meter quivering between 4 and 5).
SC: Babe, okay, which one of us loves to climb mountains etc?
JC: Me.
SC: Which one of us would go do this by ourselves?
JC: Me.
SC: Exactly! This is not a gift just for ME. On your birthday I always make it ALL about you. And I shouldn’t feel bad for not wanting to do that on MY birthday.
Well, it made sense, but I go downstairs quite annoyed. We were having this conversation as we were getting ready to go to dinner for Valentine’s day and I am stewing inside. Why couldn’t he just go along with it? I would. Then I thought about it and realized that for the seven birthdays I’ve celebrated with him, I’ve never had to ‘go along’ with anything.
As I am having my pouting session, God said “he’s right”.
That was the quickest way to dismiss a case I never really had. (annoyance meter back to zero)
I finished getting ready for dinner and we had a wonderful time. The next day I called the resort, and of course, because the cancellation was within 14 days, I couldn’t get my money back; only a gift certificate. Whoosa…..so needless to say the trip for our anniversary is already booked for US. Lesson learned.
On a work assignment in Arizona two days ago and as we were driving from the airport in Tucson, God said one of the reasons SC is so firm about his birthday is because he is half of a boy/girl twin. And that made even more sense: all the birthdays he had to share along the way.
‘reading’ to his sister 🙂
The Sound 
Brian
February 23, 2014 at 2:38 pm
Yes, and this will cause me to be more honest and less frustrated. This is what real love is, investing in a strong happy relationship. Thanks JC, and thank SC for teaching us this.
JC
February 23, 2014 at 11:03 pm
Amen and thank you 🙂
totsymae1011
February 23, 2014 at 3:20 pm
Long as you guys worked it out. All’s well at the hacienda. 🙂
JC
February 23, 2014 at 11:05 pm
True thing Totsy…..la casa needs to be right 🙂
JC
Freda
February 23, 2014 at 4:10 pm
Nice… Happy Birthday SC….
JC
February 23, 2014 at 11:05 pm
Thank you 😉
journeyofjoy
February 25, 2014 at 5:28 pm
We just attended the ONE Marriage conference this past weekend — this example would fit so well with SO much that was discussed. So glad you can hear God’s voice and then return the annoyance back to zero! That’s what it’s about. Putting each other’s needs 1st.
I wondered why I didn’t pass along the info. for the marriage conference to you BTW?! Didn’t think about it until it was too late. Tickets sold out. Anyway; so happy to see you guys enjoying each other! Warms my heart Oh’ so much.
Happy Birthday Mr. C! May God grant you MANY more!! 🙂
JC
March 4, 2014 at 4:12 pm
Yes, yes and yes 🙂
Loving the journey 😉
Seyi sandra
March 3, 2014 at 11:04 pm
Happy belated birthday to SC. I smiled while reading this. My husband bought a watch for me and I didn’t like it, I returned it pronto! And when I bought a shoe for him on his birthday, he didn’t like it but he’s still wearing till date! 🙂 Glad you learnt your lesson!
🙂
JC
March 4, 2014 at 4:12 pm
Yes, lesson learned indeed 😉
Momz Happy Hour
March 12, 2014 at 7:14 pm
new reader here.. love your writings.. and I have been there/done that , where I have planned something I thought my guy would LOVE , and it turns out it’s something “I” secretly loved and he didn’t want or didn’t want to do/go… I love the way you stayed quiet and handled it. awesome!
JC
March 13, 2014 at 8:48 pm
Hi 😉
Thank you and thank you for visiting and commenting 🙂
You are right, it was a pill I had to swallow that I wanted to do something that “I” would like too! Actively working on dying to myself especially when God says “He’s right.”
Blessings to you on this beautiful day 🙂
JC
Momz Happy Hour
March 13, 2014 at 11:14 pm
Blessings to you as well,and sometimes we have to listen to that “inner voice” that I like to believe is God as well 🙂 even if it is to make our BIG CRYBABY men happy.. lol AND I say that in a very funny and loving way. LOL
greenlightlady
March 16, 2014 at 1:53 am
JC, I am so stuck on that adorable picture of your dear husband reading to his sister. You are one wise woman to consider his family history to help you respect his desire to have his birthdays be about him.
Blessings ~ Wendy ❀
writeshianwrite
March 16, 2014 at 3:16 am
Awww, you’re blessing to each other.
Bipasha
September 29, 2014 at 8:48 am
Hi JC, this is such a great account of how things could go wrong between two people and how we have all the power in ourselves to make it right again. Hope SC got the kind of birthday he wanted 🙂
JC
September 29, 2014 at 8:56 am
Yep and lesson learned 😉 And yes, his day was fabulous.
Thanks for stopping by 🙂
JC