hanging with baby girl at Wrightsville beach….
“An elderly lady enters a local diner and approaches the nearest table. She drops her heavy parcels onto the floor and eases herself into the booth. She is tired and hungry. She has been running errands all morning and has stopped to get a cup of coffee and a donut before continuing on with her chores.
The diner is almost empty. A weary waitress shuffles over toward the woman’s booth. She carries a steaming pot of coffee and automatically begins to fill her cup. The piping hot coffee begins to fill the expectant, up-turned cup, and the rich aroma wafts into the air. Almost as if she was talking to herself, the waitress mumbles, “Just say when.” The coffee swirls wildly around the perimeter of the cup and quickly reaches the brim. It starts to overflow and splashes onto the table. The woman, who was only half-attentive, finally realizes that she had let it go too long before stopping the waitress. She smiles and says what should have been said a little sooner, “When.”
The waitress had asked her to say when; she left the control of how much coffee was to be poured in the hands of the customer. But the woman was tired. She wasn’t paying attention, and she expected the waitress to notice that the cup was filled.
More often than not, many of us sit quietly through life relying on others to see when the cup is filled. Like the cup, we are vulnerable to what people pour into us, but we tend to hope that they will see what they are doing to us and stop when it is too much. The truth of the matter is most people will keep dumping and dumping into you if you do not speak up.
People who don’t speak up can find themselves in trouble because they didn’t take control of the situation and speak up when they had had enough. They let people keep pouring on more problems, more burdens, more responsibilities. They didn’t pay attention or else just kept their mouths shut, and before they know it, their life is overflowing with too much to do, too much heartache, and too much misery. They don’t say anything and they wind up with nothing but one big mess to clean up.
You need to tell people when to stop. If something is not working for you, if someone is doing something you don’t want them to do to you, you better take control of your life and be the one who says, “When”. Your life is too precious to leave in the hands of someone else. You cannot expect someone else to take care of you. You cannot expect someone to tell you when you have had enough. We cannot trust our lives to anyone. God is the only one we can trust to steer our lives. Other people can act as advisors but never allow someone’s opinion to outweigh your own. You have to speak up and be heard. Lift your head, raise your voice, and shout out loud, “When!”
Overloaded people fail. They always have and they always will. They fail at marriage, ministry, and management. They fail at parenting, partnership, and professional endeavors. Motivated by the desire to please, impress, or otherwise gain commendation, they take on too much and, in the end, fail to reach the heights of success or else crash because they ignored their limitations.
In order to maximize your life, you have to minimize your load. You must decide what you will and will not take on. Every situation that arises does not deserve your attention. Some things should be dismissed as just nuisances and distractions. Choosing which to respond to and which to ignore helps you to maximize your life.” ~ Maximize The Moment by T.D. Jakes.
This was the opening chapter of the book. I was sitting reading and waiting for the guys to give me the signal that my car was ready at Auto Bell and I felt a post brewing. Only the day before I had my Minister’s evaluation and one of my growth areas was BALANCE. Balancing family, ministry, work, friends and me. As I read the line ‘in order to maximize your life, you have to minimize your load’, it resonated in me. I am undertaking a specific assignment for God and to be successful I have to be laser focused to accomplish it! It is so easy to get caught up doing a bunch of things. Especially when you love to ‘help out’ and have a ‘fix it’ mentality. Something and someone is going to go neglected. Family is the first ministry God has given me and I have to make sure they don’t go neglected.
jet skiing in the Atlantic Ocean…
For some of us there are some people and emotions that we have to release in order to minimize our load. People who are draining or offer negative energy. This might be rough but it is part of the pruning process. Pruning never feels good, but it is best for the overall health of a plant. I guess it is all about learning to say ‘When’ because at the end of the day to be successful we have to maximize each and every moment. How do you keep balance?
I read this somewhere: Success is being where God wants you to be, doing what He wants you to do, when He wants you to do it 😉 🙂